You’ll find that a consistent theme in my writing and teaching on health is the importance of reaching the Spiritual Connection to any change you wish you make in your life, even your health goals. I believe it is not until you reach this pivotal moment of spiritual alignment that you can finally make a LIFE change, not just a short-term, will-power dependent, kind of change.
Over the course of this week in my 5-Part Series called “Wine Not?!”, I’ve charted the path at how I arrived at the life decision to step away, or as I said, “break-up” with my relationship with WINE.
This decision first started for me with some physical ramifications (which I explained on Tuesday’s blog), which lead to some logical assessment and some tougher questions to answer (which I explained on Yesterday’s blog).
Today, I want to go over how it all finally “clicked into place” as I explain how I reached a Spiritual Connection to the act of avoiding wine.
I believe it’s worth explaining here exactly what I mean when I say “Spirit” and exactly what I mean when I say “Spiritual Connection or Alignment.”
What Is Your Spirit?
As I’ve struggled to fully articulate the complexity that is our Spirit, I think I have settled on this finite explanation, for now:
To me, our Spirit is our Truest Essence and Being. It is our inner compass that directs our lives and guides each decision we make. It is the home to our values, our virtues, and our character. It can be both our Light and our Darkness.
Our Spirit is the place where God dwells, waiting for us to call on Him. It is also where the Evil One dwells, hoping we’ll believe his lies.
Our Spirit is not always in our consciousness and most people live their entire lives having never awakened their mind to their Spiritual being.
I am not actually referring at all to RELIGIOUS BELIEFS when I’m talking about being guided by our Spirit.
I don’t in fact believe that religion itself actually guides anyone to a conscious spirituality. In spite of growing up in a healthy, faith-based home, going to church every Sunday and attending a Christian university, I can admit that I only came to my Spiritual Consciousness maybe 4-5 years ago.
While I have gone through stages of loving and hating attending church, it has been only by a shift in my Spiritual Alignment that I have truly CHANGED MY LIFE.
It has been a shift in my Spirit that has opened me up to the purpose of this great life……which is to have a personal relationship with God.
Religion does’t necessarily get you that relationship. Religion can often be caught-up in traditions and rules and guilt and fear. Religion is more man-made where as I know my Spirit was God-made.
Step 1: AWARENESS
Even so, just because I was now “conscious” of my Spirit in MOST areas of my life, it does not mean I was truly letting my “inner compass” guide me in ALL areas of my life.
What I was eating and what I was drinking were certainly never things that I thought I needed to consult my Spirit about. These were actions that were still relegated to the subconscious part of my being. All my eating and drinking habits (i.e. the Strict Binger person I was) were largely due to having a narrow and mainly negative focus on how I saw my body.
As I struggled to cut back my drinking, in spite of knowing it wasn’t having a good affect on my body, I started to ask myself these tough questions:
-Am I dependent on wine?
-Do I need wine to have fun?
-Do I need wine to make people to like me?
-Do I need wine to like people?
-Do I need wine to feel like myself?
After some deeper connecting, I realized the reason why I was still resorting to drinking wine even when I was “trying to stop” was because of one truth:
That is not to say the answer IS yes to all of those questions. (The answer to all those questions is indeed a strong NO, I have found).
But, I was subconsciously believing that I was dependent on wine on a Spiritual level.
Somewhere, deep in my soul, there were still some lies that I was believing about myself. Lies that were telling me I needed a chemically induced way to truly alleviate stress. Lies that told me I needed a drink to have fun. Lies that were telling me that those around me would like me more when I’m drinking. Lies that were telling me I needed wine to feel like my real self.
They are LIES in my head and they are LIES in your head too. Whatever your “thing” is that you just can’t seem to give up, in spite of suffering some body or mental consequence because of it, is because of some set of LIES you continue to believe in your Spirit. Whatever reason you give yourself for not being able to DO anything, is a lie. Because I’m here to tell you, LOUD AND CLEAR,
THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN’T DO, IF YOU DO IT WITH GOD.
Exposing these LIES through simple awareness and spiritual consciousness is the first step to replacing them with the TRUTH about you and the TRUTH about whatever it is you’re trying to change.
STEP 2: REATTACHMENT
Once I become aware of these lies, I couldn’t just tell myself to STOP BELIEVING THE LIES.
Ha! If only it were so easy.
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” —-Martin Luther King, Jr.
The only thing that casts out LIES is the TRUTH.
The truth is I CAN de-stress without wine. I CAN be fun at dinner without getting lubricated. Others WILL like me even if I’m not drinking and they are.
MY Truth, was that I was not put on this earth to be dependent on anything except my relationship with God. Not my husband, not my mom and not any of that Good Juice I call Wine.
I needed to REATTACH myself to my Greater Purpose in my life and see things how for their TRUTH.
Each one of us has a Greater Purpose. This is the term that I use to describe your destiny, your calling or basically your God-given purpose.
Each of us is built with our unique DNA, our unique character and our unique set of core values that all live within our Spirit. We find our Greater Purpose when we can SURREND’her these spiritual gifts to God and align ourself on His path, not our own.
As I was drinking and depending on WINE so much, I realized this was because I was attaching this act to some old, subconscious VALUES of mine:
But the Greater Purpose set of values I have identified from my Conscious Spirit (i.e. from God) are:
- Serving Others
(BONUS, If you’re interested in investigating in YOUR Core Values to live your Greater Purpose, click HERE to receive my 6-Steps to Values Based Living straight to your inbox!)
When I REATTACHED my decision of drinking to my Greater Purpose set of values, my decision was much easier to make.
- In Health, I’ll limit my intake to none or just 1 glass at a time to avoid the body consequences of drinking.
- In Faith, I remind myself of ALL that I’m put on this earth to do, which right now includes a habit of getting up at 530am every day to have some quiet time and to practice the art of writing. Having to get up so early means that I DON’t want to have a foggy brain or headache the next day from drinking.
- In Integrity, I’ll remind myself that if I say I’m going to do something, I need to follow-through and do it. Making promises to myself and breaking them is not allowed in this value.
- In Love, I realized how slippery a slope alcohol can be to my relationships. Drinking always increases the chances of arguments or feelings getting hurt. Out of love for others and love for myself, I don’t want wine to be the excuse for these things.
- In Obedience, I want to be actively obedient to my divine intuition. I want to obey what is coming from my spirit so I might avoid hurtful pathways that don’t serve my Greater Purpose. I want to be obedient for the blessings that come from that.
- In Serving Others, I know that my Greater Purpose is to
“Let my light shine before others, that they may see (my) good deeds and glorify (my) Father in heaven.” (Matthew 5:16)
Put another way from Gandhi, I want to,
“Be the change I wish to see in the World”
I don’t want to see a world that suffers from alcohol addiction or dependence any more. I can serve others by holding myself accountable first.
When we align these aspects of our life to what God wants for us, we find that tremendous blessing ensue. A feeling of peace waves over you as you realize you are doing exactly what you need to do.
If something in your life isn’t working for you any more, it is likely due to the fact that this habit or entity doesn’t actually fit into your Greater Purpose and the Godly given character and values you could be following. It is worth revisiting your values to reveal more about your Greater Purpose.
(Again, if you want my Values Based Living Guide, HERE’s the link again to have it sent to you)
Step 3: PRACTICE
After I was able to reattach, and thereby re-engage, my Greater Purpose based approach to this act of drinking wine, the only thing left for me to do was PRACTICE.
But, yes, I am talking about practice! Even after all this CLARITY and after all of my deeper connecting, nothing was going to change until I put it into PRACTICE.
Check me out tomorrow in the 5th and FINAL part of the series, as I detail how I put into practice ALL of this decision work and didn’t let it defeat all of my relationships and my social life!
It’s a good way to WINE-D down the series! You won’t wanna miss it!!