As I am in the business of helping others cultivate lasting change in their lives, I have written and truly believe that if we solely rely on will power to manifest any changes in our life, we soon recognize that our WILL POWER quickly becomes our WON’T POWER because we are relying on such small, finite power within ourselves.
To find our GREATER POWER we must seek and find our GOD POWER which is limitless and infinite. We find our GOD POWER when we engage and learn from a relationship with GOD and can focus and harness from His Spirit within us. He always provides what we need in that moment we need it.
I have learned this 1000-fold from first hand experience, but, God did not design us to have to learn everything from our own trials. God gives us each other to learn from too.
As I have built A. Wright Fit as a way to share my own faults and flaws in an effort to teach others as I “Find A Wright Fit” on my path to True (read: balanced) Health, I have found God has also provided me the gift of being on the receiving end of learning through other people’s lives as well.
Such is the case of a story I want to share with you today. I was talking with a new friend and new potential client we’ll call “K” about some recent exciting changes she’s been going through.
I first met K just a few months ago as she was beginning life under a new boss and an exciting new promotion at her big corporate job. She was so honored and encouraged by her upward movement with a company she loves. Now with her new job and new boss, she was working harder than she had ever worked before, but work that feels so rewarding.
But, in our last encounter, I saw a less enthusiastic K. The problem is that as she has been working her tail off, other people in her company, at her same level and position no less, are doing what many flawed people do best—lots of gossip, jealousy, disparaging and waiting for her to fail so they could be “right” about their cynicism.
She came to me needing to vent. “I feel so lucky and can’t believe it’s all happening and yet I am so overwhelmed by all this negativity and criticism around me. “They” are so mean and I am constantly thinking about what “they” are saying about me. I break down all the time.”
Then she said it…..
“I know I just need to be STRONGER…..”
Scrrrrrrrrrcccccch. (Record Stops) My ears perk up.
What K is experiencing is something I have experienced personally and what I see ALL THE TIME from friends, family and clients.
When we get so caught up worrying about the CIRCUMSTANCE and the NAYSAYERS, we fail to see the BIG PICTURE and the power we have in these very moments.
- K has been looking at her situation as “luck” that she found herself under her new boss at work and up for a promotion. God sees this as His design for her, a step so worthy of her.
- K thinks she needs more “strength” herself. God has been patiently waiting for her to finally use HIS power within her.
- K thinks this is all about her “job” and being “strong enough.” God sees this as the prime opportunity to finally build the relationship He’s been seeking with her! This is one of just a million ways He’s been trying to get her attention.
K has been trying to face her problems at work with WILL POWER, but she has quickly realized that her new position alone is maxing out all the will power she has! New changes and our careers can quickly monopolize every ounce of will power we have.
And, just as I mentioned at the beginning, when we solely rely on will power, it quickly becomes WON’T POWER. It just won’t work for the long haul. We’ll be miserable!
Here’s the Problem with Will Power:
If she is maxing out all her will power just at her job, the other areas of her life—her health, her relationships, her Faith— are all going to suffer from not getting enough attention and balance.
She is seeing that she isn’t able to sustain the will power to do her job really well ANNNNNDD the will power to combat the naysayers. On top that, she also wants to date and find a healthy relationship and get married one day. On tippy top of that, she has also come to me expressing a real desire to getting healthier and less “skinny fat” as she puts it. 🙂
We all want it all right?! This IS what God wants for us too. But He wants us to do it His way, not our way.
So, as much as I love new clients, I told her honestly that I can see she’s not in a place where she can focus on health changes too as I right away recognized that her will power tank is running on empty. Adding more things on her “to do” list DOES NOT HELP when you are already feeling overwhelmed!
If K doesn’t find more POWER within her, she is going to continue to struggle at her new position and struggle with attempts to do all the other things she wants to do in life. Because, in all likelihood, the constant gossip, criticism and annoying comments aren’t going to go away….this is corporate America we’re talking about!
But, even if they do, other problems are just going to replace them until K learns the Greater Lesson she is meant to learn from God.
I wanted to share K’s story, not only because it was tremendously helpful and insightful for me to learn from but I also know that many of you have felt these exact sentiments and could empathize from your own circumstances.
- Perhaps you are running on emotional “empty” as well? Perhaps you have maxed out all your will power to just one area of YOUR life and here has come another problem you can’t seem to handle?
- Perhaps you too have dreams of having more to your life than just the _____________ (area) but can’t imagine how you’re going to find the will power, time OR the energy!?
- Perhaps you have recently thought that exact same phrase as K and myself, “If I were just STRONGER…..”
Don’t. Fall. For. The Trap.
The devil with prey on our challenging circumstances and cause you to think of them as a “bad sign” or proof that you are indeed “unworthy” of the life you have dreamed for yourself. He’ll want to persuade you to give up and play small by focusing on all the wrong things.
But what you may be needing, just like K is needing, is not a newfound ANSWER but rather A NEW QUESTION.
You see, when you experience pain, when you are going through trouble and trauma and uncertain times, you must focus on the (W)RIGHT QUESTION to get the (W)RIGHT ANSWER (and then “You’ve Got the (W)Right stuff….baby”)
THE (W)RIGHT QUESTION:
WHAT DO YOU WANT ME TO LEARN HERE GOD?
I love what Rick Warren says about our problems. He says, “God is not interested in your circumstances as much as He is interested in your CHARACTER.”
In other words, what character values are you cultivating as you harness your energy for your problems? Where are you putting all of your hope and faith?
Is it in yourself and all that you are able to do (i.e. your WILL POWER)?
OR are you praying and seeking God’s power through God’s wisdom?
Refocusing your mind and thoughts on what GOD might be wanting you to learn through prayer and reading the Word of God, will provide you with the REAL answer and your GREATER POWER which is your GOD POWER.
Then you’ll find, even if your circumstances don’t change, your perspective of them will, and that will make ALL THE DIFFERENCE!
God allows everything to enter into our life to teach us and be used for Good by cultivating the necessary character changes you need. This includes bad decisions we make, bad things that other people say or do to us, and the havoc that the devil and evil will cause for us too. ALL can be made RIGHT with God and will serve our Greater Purpose.
So keep the Faith and keep asking God the (W)Right Question to get the (W)Right Answer! Remember, in order to HEAR God, you must spend time in PRAYER and in His WORD (i.e. reading the Bible) and it will be revealed!
“And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” (Romans 8:28 NLT)